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You are about to learn something remarkable—it takes just five seconds to
change your life. Sounds like a gimmick, doesn’t it? It’s not. It’s science. I’ll prove it to you. 
You change your life one five-second decision at a time. In fact, it’s the only way you change.

The Rule is easy to learn and its impact is profound. It’s the secret to changing anything. Once you learn the Rule, you can start using it immediately. The Rule will help you live, love, work, and speak with greater confidence and courage every day. Use it once and it’ll be there for you whenever you need it.

The 5 Second Rule changed everything … by teaching me just one thing: HOW to change.

Using the Rule, I replaced my tendency to overthink the smallest moves with a bias toward action. I used the Rule to master self-monitoring and become more  present and productive. The Rule taught me how to stop doubting and start believing in myself, my ideas, and my abilities. 

The Rule can do the same for you. That’s why I am so excited to share it with you. In the next few chapters, you’ll learn the story behind the Rule, what it is, why it works, and the compelling science to back it up. 

Yes, the Rule will help you wake up on time, but what it really does is something far more remarkable—Yes, the Rule will help you
wake up on time, but what it really does is something far more remarkableit wakes up the inner genius, leader, rock star, athlete, artist, and change agent
inside of you.

When you first learn the Rule, you’ll likely start using it to stick to your goals. You might use the Rule to push yourself to get to the gym like Margaret does when she isn’t “feeling it.”

How Can One Simple Tool Work in So Many Powerful Ways?

Great question. The #5SecondRule is only ever working on one thing—YOU. You have greatness inside of you. Even at your lowest point, greatness is there. The Rule will give you both the clarity to hear that greatness and the courage to act on it.

Only through action have I unlocked the power inside of me to become the person that I’ve always wanted to be. And the confidence I exhibit on TV, online, and on stage is what I call “Real Confidence.”


Before I discovered the #5SecondRule, if you had asked me to give you examples of courage, I would have given you a list of history makers. I would never have said that courage is what it takes some days to get out of bed, speak to your boss, pick up the phone, or step on a scale. I would have told you that courage is a word used to describe acts of huge bravery.

But after using the Rule for seven years and hearing from so many people around the world, I have learned a very important certainty: Everyday life is full of moments that are scary, uncertain, and difficult. Facing these moments and unlocking the opportunity, magic, and joy in your life requires tremendous courage.

Her moment of courage teaches us all that it’s not the big moves that change everything—it’s the smallest ones in your everyday life that do. She didn’t plan to do what she did that night. Mrs. Parks described herself as the kind of person who tried to “be as careful as possible to stay out of trouble.”

Then the radio interviewer asked her the million-dollar question:

“What in the world ever made you decide to be the person who after all these years of Jim Crowe and segregation, what made you at that particular moment decide you were going to keep that seat?”

She replied very simply,

“I felt that I was not being treated right and that I had a right to retain the seat that I had taken as a passenger on that bus.”

Courage is a birthright. It is inside each and every one of us. You were born with it and you can tap into it anytime you want. It’s not a matter of confidence, education, status, personality, or profession. It’s simply a matter of  knowing how to find it when you need it. And when you need it, you’ll probably be alone.

There is only one YOU. And there will never be another one. That’s your power.


Almost half of the messages I have received are from people, just like you and me, who want to improve their health. Whether it’s to slim down, pump up, drop weight, lower cholesterol, heal yourself from illness, eat healthier, or improve strength and flexibility—whatever it is, you can use the #5SecondRule to get it done.

The fact is that thinking about being healthier won’t make you healthier. Even
meditation, which is a mental exercise, still requires that you DO IT. There is no getting around this. You must take action.

The irony is that in no other area of our lives is there more information, support, research, options, or free content than on the subject of health and wellness. You could Google “diet,” download the top 20 search results, print them out put them on a dart board, and follow whatever diet the dart hits.

Life is about the choices we make. And I have said over and over in this book that you can always choose how you act. If you have goals to get healthier, what you need to do is usually straight forward Pick a plan to follow, any plan will do - and then 5- 4- 3- 2- 1-GO. The only thing you will need to choose after that is choosing each and every day to DO IT even though, as Anouk said, you “really really really don’t feel like it.”

Exercise and health comes down to one simple rule—you don’t have to feel like it. You just have to do it.

Go the extra mile.It’s never crowded.


ore than any other change, ending your habit of worrying will create the single biggest positive impact in your life. Believe it or not, you were taught how to worry. As a kid, you heard your parents worrying constantly “Be careful,” “Wear a hat or you’ll catch a cold,” and “Don’t sit so close to the TV.” As adults, we spend way too much time and energy worrying about things that we can’t control or that could go wrong.

Dr. Karl Pillemer is a professor of Human Development at Cornell University and is the founder of the Legacy Project. He has met with 1,200 senior citizens to discuss the meaning of life. He was “shocked” to learn that most people near the end of their lives had the same regret: I wish I hadn’t spent so much of my lifetime worrying. Their advice was “devastatingly simple and direct: worry is an enormous of your precious and limited lifetime.”

Feelings of Love Often Trigger Worry

Another thing that has surprised me about worry is just how subtle it is and how fast it can seize control of you. I’ve been surprised by how often I start to worry the moment that I feel happiness or love.

When your mind takes you somewhere sad, dark, doubtful, or negative, you don’t have to go with it. I love what Hein wrote to me: “99.999% of the time, it has always been a fake reality that I had created in my head.”

Then I asked myself two simple questions: “What am I grateful for in this moment?
What do I want to remember?” When you ask that simple question, you impact your
brain at a biological level. In order to respond you have to take stock of your life,
relationships, and work and search for an answer in the moment.

Katie is also using the Rule to reflect on what she is grateful for and to control
her worries:

It’s okay to be scared. Being scared means you’re about to do something really, really brave.


A big mistake people make is thinking that confidence is a matter of personality. Confidence just means that you believe in yourself, your ideas, and your capabilities. Anyone can learn how to become more confident. It’s not a personality trait. It’s a skill.

You may have an extroverted personality and talk a lot, but that doesn’t mean you are confident. The most vocal person in the room might be really insecure and only says what he thinks will make him look good. Look no further than me. For a long time, I was loud and bossy, but I felt insecure in myself, my ideas, and my abilities.

I had an experience that illustrates the connection between confidence, courage,
and personality. It also will show you once again the authentic pride you feel when
you 5- 4- 3- 2- 1 to push yourself outside your comfort zone.

“I Have An Issue Being the Real Me.”

Bill’s life on the outside sounds remarkable. He’s married, has four great kids, a very successful career, and is the president of a professional association. “Great life, huh?” Sure sounds like it. But there’s something missing. And it’s a meaningful connection with himself.

He’s forgetting the most important person he’s lost connection with—himself. When you lose touch with the real you, you will feel adrift, you’ll lose confidence and your life will lose its “flavor of congruency.”

Here’s the thing we learned from Bill: Small things are not small at all. They are the most important things of all. And they add up. Pushing yourself to 5- 4- 3- 2- 1 on the “small things” gives you confidence to do the “big scheme of things.”

As Professor Little likes to say, “you are like some other people and like no other person.” What I do know is that the first time you do anything, it’s going to feel difficult and may be a little scary. You’re going to need a little courage. We are all capable of “acting out of character” when it serves an important purpose. The most important purpose I can think of is improving your life in ways that make you come alive and feel happy and fulfilled.

Speak from your heart,even if your shakes

Have Faith

I believe you can make anything happen as long as you listen to your heart, do the work, and give up your timeline. One of my favorite books is the international best-seller The Alchemist. It’s one of the best-selling books of all time and has been translate into 80 languages. I’ve recommended it for more than a decade, and as I was writing this book, I bought myself a new copy to keep me inspired and reminded that the “Whole universe conspires to help you when you follow your heart.”

The answers are inside of you if you have the courage to listen. You are like some other people and like no other person. You have something remarkable to share with the world. It starts with listening to what’s inside of you and ends with the courage to go where it leads.

Follow it.

Don’t tell people your dreams. Show them.

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Good Read Community Review.

1.Amy Landino rated it 5 out of 5

This book is incredible. I don't have a lot of issues getting motivated, but we all get comfortable in our own ways. I'm so motivated and it's incredible how MOVED my body feels by the simple act of counting down from 5. I'm blown away!

2.Amina rated it 5 out of 4

This is definitely a great one, its concept is very sipmle.
In this book, Mel Robbins explains the simple way of the 5 second rule and shares some stories of people who applied it and witnessed the change it brought. There's no overwhelming motivation in here, the book only makes you face yourself and and admit that the only person standing in your way is you, not your condition, not your family or society, as human beings, we have that gift to ignore what's happening around us if we want something so bad, even if it's stupid or futile, but we always manage to find an excuse when it comes to achieve something we really long for. That's what this book is about, stop lying to yourself and start doing what really matters for you.

3.Alexander Fitzgerald rated it 5 out of 5

Mel Robbins book has way too many testimonials. It goes in circles. Entire sections should be cut out. And you absolutely positively must read it.

I get the idea Mel Robbins was rushed to make this book after her wildly successful Ted Talk, and it's a prime example of why nonfiction books need to slim down. There is a reason Blinkist can summarize so many of them so succinctly into five pages. You can almost hear the publisher screaming through Mel Robbins's lessons to, "pad the page count! Copy and paste another testimonial! Make the physical book look like a good value!"

1. When you have a good idea to better yourself, do a "5...4...3...2...1..." countdown and get to it. If you give yourself any longer you will make an excuse and psyche yourself out. Once you start moving it's far more likely you'll get working.

2. You will never ever feel like doing anything to better yourself. Motivational speakers are largely full of it. You need to force yourself.

3.Kat valentine rated it 5 out of 4

Awesome self help book!! Mel Robbins book the 5 Second rule is another take on getting your shit together with many testimonials and great quotes. I saw her last year on ted talks and loved her approach to changing how your brain works and it really interested me so I picked up her book from the library. It was well done and I enjoyed reading how her 5 Second rule had changed so many people's lives. I will say that I love listening to her live because it isn't just what she says, it's her delivery that hooked me. Over all I enjoyed it and recommend reading,but also if you get the chance watch her ted talk or her talk show. I love both. Until next time luv's💖💋

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