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Becoming Summary
by Michelle Obama

Becoming is a memoir by former First Lady Michelle Obama. It offers insight into her childhood in Chicago, journey through college and law school, marriage to Barack Obama, and time in the White House. 

  • Michelle grew up in a loving family and was an intelligent and driven student.
  • She attended Princeton University and later Harvard Law School.
  • Michelle met Barack Obama while serving as his mentor at a law firm. They began dating and eventually were married. 
  • During Barack’s presidency, Michelle focused her efforts on childhood nutrition and health and served as “mom in chief” for their two young daughters.
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1-Sentence-Summary: Becoming

Michelle Obama hasn’t always been as successful and well-known as she is today. Long before she was a lawyer, working mom, and First Lady, she was Michelle Robinson. Growing up in the Chicago south side, her loves included learning, jazz music, and Stevie Wonder long before she met Barack. 

In a quickly decaying neighborhood and school situation, Michelle’s mother helped her excel. Her 

These are just some of the life lessons you’ll learn from Michelle Obama in her book 

Here are the 3 most helpful lessons I’ve learned from the life of Michelle Obama:

  1. Regardless of the changes in your world, you can strive to be your best and learn.
  2. Ignore people who tell you what they think you can’t be, pushing yourself to excel can lead to meeting people who believe in your potential.
  3. Don’t be afraid to try new things, even if you’re living in the White House.

6 things we have learned from Michelle Obama's new book ‘Becoming’.

1.She did not think Mr Obama could win the presidency.

Although the Chicago native gave Mr Obama her blessing, she was still worried about the racial tension in the country. In Becoming, she revealed that she was “harbouring a painful thought: Barack was a black man in America, after all. I didn’t really think he could win.”

In an interview with “Good Morning America,” Ms Obama explained that she was simply doing “what a lot of black folks were doing: We were afraid to hope, because it’s hard to think that the country oppressed you could one day be led by you.”

In the book, the former first lady wrote about the criticism—sometimes racially motivated—she faced throughout Mr Obama’s campaign. She was accused of not loving her own country, and headlines like “Her Looks: Regal or Intimidating” became the norm. “I am telling you, this stuff hurt,” Ms Obama wrote. “I sometimes blamed Barack’s campaign for the position I was in.”

2.She had a miscarriage, and then conceived Sasha and Malia through in vitro fertilization.

About 20 years ago, after the Obamas were attempting to have a baby for quite some time, they were able to get a positive pregnancy result. That, however, ended up as a miscarriage that left Ms Obama feeling devastated.

A miscarriage is lonely, painful, and demoralising almost on a cellular level,” she wrote. “When you have one, you will likely mistake it for a personal failure, which it is not. Or a tragedy, which, regardless of how utterly devastating it feels in the moment, it also is not. What nobody tells you is that miscarriage happens all the time, to more women than you’d ever guess, given the relative silence around it.”

She later reveals that she was able to conceive their two daughters, Sasha and Malia, through in vitro fertilisation.

3.The Obamas went through couples counselling.

A few moments after the birth of their two daughters, the Obamas sought out couples therapy. The reasons are similar to most married couples: They did not get to see each other enough. Mr Obama had a rising political career, and that required a lot of hard work and time.

At first, the Hawaiian-born politician was reluctant to speak about their issues in front of a stranger. But Ms Obama explained to him couples therapy was born out of necessity, to aid her in exploring her own “sense of happiness.”

The couples therapy sessions helped the former first lady explain to her husband that, whenever he was traveling or away, she felt “vulnerable all the time.”

I feel vulnerable all the time,” Ms Obama wrote. “And I had to learn how to express that to my husband, to tap into those parts of me that missed him — and the sadness that came from that — so that he could understand. He didn’t understand distance in the same way. You know, he grew up without his mother in his life for most of his years, and he knew his mother loved him dearly, right? I always thought love was up close. Love is the dinner table, love is consistency, it is presence. So I had to share my vulnerability and also learn to love differently. It was an important part of my journey of becoming. Understanding how to become us.”

4.The Sandy Hook shooting was one of Mr Obama’s difficult times as president.

Although Ms Obama rarely ever got to see her husband while he was working, she wrote about the only time he requested her presence during the work day within his two presidential terms. It was in December 2012, after news broke out that a gunman walked into an Connecticut elementary school, and killed 20 students and 6 teachers.

My husband needed me,” the former first lady wrote. “This would be the only time in eight years that he’d request my presence in the middle of a workday, the two of us rearranging our schedules to be alone together for a moment of comfort.”

Mr Obama was just briefed on the brutal catastrophe involving school children.

“Those images were seared permanently into his psyche,” she added. “I could see in his eyes how broken they’d left him, what this had done already to his faith.”

5.The former first lady and the Queen both commiserate over uncomfortable shoes.

In September 2009, Ms Obama made headlines for an awkward faux paus: She hugged the British Queen during the G20 Summit in Pittsburgh.

“I laid a hand affectionately across her shoulder,” Ms Obama wrote. “I couldn’t have known it in the moment, but I was committing what would be deemed an epic faux pas.”

But the encounter between these two powerful ladies were anything but awkward.

You’re so tall,” Her Majesty reportedly told the 5-foot-11 Princeton graduate, before pointing down on her Jimmy Choo shoes and asking if it hurt her feet. When the Queen admitted her own shoes were painful, the women bursted out laughing.

When the Queen and Ms Obama met again, Her Majesty invited her to sit with her in the backseat of a Range Rover. “Did they give you some rules about this?” the Queen reportedly told her. “That’s rubbish. Sit wherever you want.”

6.Ms Obama won’t be running for public office.

The Harvard Law graduate has sparked a lot of inquiries of whether or not a career in politics is in her future. She electrified Americans with her powerful, eloquent speeches about “going high” when others “go low,” referring to Mr Trump’s notably racist presidential campaign.

But in the epilogue of her memoir, Ms Obama made it clear: She has “no intention of running for office, ever.”

She believes she has found another method in resisting, or fighting for democracy.

“We all play a role in this democracy,” Ms Obama wrote. “We need to remember the power of every vote. I continue, too, to keep myself connected to a force that’s larger and more potent than any one election, or leader, or news story — and that’s optimism. For me, this is a form of faith, an antidote to fear.”

Three lesson we can learn from book

Lesson 1: Be proactive about learning and getting a good education regardless of how good or bad things are around you.

The South Side of Chicago saw a huge demographic change between 1950 and 1980. In the ’50s, it’s residents were 96% white. Just 30 years later, it was 96% black. Michelle Obama began life right in the middle of this, and at her school, there was a good mix of different people.

As she grew, an increasing number of her wealthier neighbors moved to the suburbs and took their money with them. Because of this the schools and businesses in the area began declining. It wasn’t long before nefarious real estate agents dubbed the area a ghetto. 

Thankfully, Michelle had a great mother who’s involvement in helping the community also helped her 

In second grade Michelle told her mom how awful school was. She explained that the teacher couldn’t control the chaos of the class, and It wasn’t long before Michelle tested into a third-grade class of high-performing kids. Looking back, this was a crucial step to her success in school.

Her drive helped her get into an equal opportunity school with great teachers and other top students like Michelle. She continued to work hard amid doubts that she could do it, especially when comparing herself to the other high-achieving kids. By concentrating on the work she learned quickly and excelled.

Lesson 2: Don’t let people’s opinions of you discourage you, try for greatness and you will eventually find the people who believe in you.

Even though she was in the National Honors Society, class treasurer, and heading toward being in the top 10% of her class, Michelle still had opposition. 

She once had a meeting with a college counselor who said: “I’m not sure you’re Princeton material.” Michelle had hopes to go there because of an older brother that was already there. But this advisor, who should have been a professional, only told her to lower her sights. 

But she Sometimes you need to ignore the people who should be giving you the best advice to just go with your gut and shoot for the moon! And, as young Michelle quickly learned, doing so can lead you to people who truly believe in your ability to reach any dreams you have.

While Princeton was mostly white, Michelle got involved with an organization by the name of Third World Center (TWC). This group gave support to students of color. It was here that she met Czerny Brasuell, a mentor who would be a positive influence on Michelle throughout college. 

Brasuell was a working mom, which is something Michelle hoped to be someday. She also gave good reading suggestions, answered questions, and helped Michelle begin an afterschool program. Czerny was the perfect example and friend to Michelle throughout college, helping set the standard for her successful life.

Lesson 3: Don’t fear using your strengths and ideas to try to improve the world no matter how prestigious a position you may be in.

Over the next few years, Michelle would go on to study at Harvard. After that, she began working for a law firm in Chicago. It was there that she met Barack Obama. Although she had some initial doubts about him, she quickly caught on and they were eventually married. 

Fast-forward a few years and the Obama’s and their two daughters are about to move into the White House as the First Family. They felt like they were in a whole new world with secret security and new protocols for even the simplest of things in life. 

Their typical date night of dinner and a show, for example, was no more due to all of the security restrictions in place. It was also hard for Michelle to get involved as the first lady acting like an elected official is frowned upon. But she did find ways to 

Her commitment to raising her daughters, for example, was one thing that Michelle wouldn’t let go of. She helped them see that the White House was their home and they could play and grab food from the pantry as they pleased.

Michelle also started a garden and worked on initiatives to help improve school lunches across the nation. The drive that helped her succeed in school and help other people shone through. She worked to improve the world in whatever way she could, even though the position her family was in made some aspects of life a little more challenging.

Here are some reviews 

Sarah Jessica parker

I’m so thrilled to add Becoming to my list! A powerful, surprising and moving book as well as refreshingly candid that I think will be deeply inspirational to many.


I usually don’t rate memoirs but this is a 10/5 — I’m writing this with tears streaming down my face I am beyond moved!!!!

Quote from Author

"Now I think it's one of the most useless questions an adult can ask a child-What do you want to be when you grow up?As if growing up is finite.As if at some point you become something and that's the end."
                                       - Michelle Obama

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